I grew up thinking that my parents had a truly perfect marriage. No fighting, completely in love, best friends who also went to a hotel or camped in our backyard for privacy every so often. One day, I mentioned this relationship perfection to my mother and she laughed and said “Honey, one time I was so mad at your father I remember thinking that I only had to wait a certain number of years before he died because he was convinced he was going to die at age 48. Do you know what we were fighting about? Neither do I.” 


I realized in that moment that not only does every couple have their out-of-sync phases, but that like all fires, the heat you feel in a moment will not be sustained unless you keep giving it fuel to burn. 


Even though every couple is unique, there are some common relationship issues that couples may encounter. One of them may be the reason you’re reading this blog…


  1. Communication Problems: Communication is a key aspect of any relationship. Issues can arise when partners have difficulty expressing themselves, actively listening, or effectively resolving conflicts. Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional distance.
  2. Trust and Infidelity: Trust is fundamental in a healthy relationship. Infidelity or breaches of trust can severely damage the foundation of a partnership. Rebuilding trust after such incidents can be a complex and lengthy process.
  3. Lack of Intimacy and Connection: Over time, couples may experience a decrease in intimacy, both emotionally and physically. A lack of connection can lead to feelings of disconnection, loneliness, and dissatisfaction within the relationship.
  4. Differences in Values and Goals: Misalignment in values, beliefs, or life goals can create conflict and tension. Differences in areas such as parenting styles, financial management, career aspirations, or religious/spiritual beliefs can strain a relationship.
  5. Financial Issues: Disagreements over money, financial irresponsibility, or mismatched financial expectations can cause stress and conflict within a partnership. Financial issues can have a significant impact on a couple’s stability and future plans.
  6. Unequal Division of Responsibilities: When there is an imbalance in the distribution of household chores, childcare, or other responsibilities, it can lead to resentment and frustration. Lack of equity in these areas can strain the relationship and create feelings of unfairness.
  7. Lack of Quality Time and Emotional Connection: Busy schedules, work demands, and other commitments can result in couples spending less time together. This can lead to a diminished emotional connection and a feeling of being disconnected from each other’s lives.
  8. Differences in Communication Styles and Conflict Resolution: Partners may have different communication styles or approaches to conflict resolution. This can result in misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and an inability to find common ground.
  9. Changes in Priorities and Life Stages: Individuals and relationships evolve over time. Life events such as career changes, having children, or aging parents can significantly impact priorities and roles within the partnership. Adjusting to these changes can create challenges and strain in the relationship.
  10. Lack of Emotional Support and Empathy: Emotional support and empathy are vital for a healthy relationship. When partners struggle to provide emotional support or empathize with each other’s experiences, it can lead to feelings of being unheard, unsupported, or disconnected.


Now that you’ve read through the list, did you find yourself nodding on one or more of these? I’m betting that you have…because we all have! 


Again, though every relationship is unique, and the specific challenges couples face can vary, you can work through them if you’re committed to not providing fuel for the fire. Open and honest communication, mutual respect, empathy, and a willingness to work through issues together are crucial for navigating these common relationship difficulties. 


I’d love to learn more about you and your relationship; please reach out to book a free consultation.





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